Self-awareness is a good thing, and it is what I personally strive for. I strive for the level of depth of self-awareness that I think is my absolute minimum for any form of life. With that said, I do have moments of the above. I do have moments when I wake up and realize how unimportant and meaningless I am all the time. I have moments where I have to remind myself that I am really just a machine.
We all have these moments (and others) where we wake up and realize we are not the person we thought we were. We all have these moments when we realize that our personalities and behaviors are not even the people we thought they were. We all have these moments of this. I have moments when I look in the mirror and look at myself and I am not the person I thought I was.
I’ve heard things like “I wish people would stop calling me by my first name because it reminds me of my dog,” and that’s true. But it is also true that if we keep calling ourselves “synonym narcissism,” we will continue to see ourselves as narcissistic and unhappy. We will continue to feel like we are doing something wrong—or not doing something we’re supposed to be doing.
This is an issue that a lot of people can relate to. I’ve been in counseling for a number of years and I have to tell you that the way my clients are able to get past this problem is by finding ways to talk about it. It’s not always easy, but it’s possible.
So by calling ourselves synonym narcissistic, we are still self-aware, but we are able to say, “hey, I can see why you feel that way.” And that, in turn, allows us to talk and take action. Most of us feel like we are doing something wrong or not doing something where we could be doing. The problem is that sometimes we have no idea what we are doing.
Yes, you do. In fact, it’s so bad that the only reason we have narcissistic tendencies is because we are living in a society that encourages us to be narcissistic. In the past, we might have been told that the only way to be healthy was to be perfect and therefore our only option was to be narcissistic. But now, you’d have to wonder if you were truly healthy if you could not be yourself.
The problem is that narcissism means being the most important person in your life. It often doesn’t work like that because narcissists are often people who work really hard to be the center of attention and the whole world sees them as this. But that doesn’t mean we can’t be happy with who we are. We can. Because, well, we’re alive. No one is perfect. Yes, we’re going to fail. Yes, we’re going to have a bad day.
Just like in life, having a perfect day is not possible. So what is possible? For you to be you. And you are you. For you to be happy and fulfilled. What is impossible is to be happy and fulfilled with a narcissist. Unless you can be you and your narcissist in a relationship. But that’s not possible either, because it’s impossible for you to have a good day without a narcissist.
You can be you and your narcissist in a relationship, but that’s not quite the same as having a good day. That’s the difference between you being perfect and you being okay. You can be you and your narcissist in a relationship, but that’s not quite the same as having a good day. And in that case, you probably would’ve been perfect if you could’ve lived in a perfect world.
So that is what we call being “narcissistic.” And its exactly what we mean when we say that being self-aware is about being aware of our narcissism, our inability to be truly happy without a narcissist taking one for the team.
